I came across an article in Allure magazine recently that caught my attention. It was an interview with Elizabeth L. Cline, author of “Overdressed: The Shockingly High Cost of Cheap Fashion”. “You write that we’re disconnected from our clothes. How so? ‘When we shop, we’re thinking, Is this cute and is it cheap? I’m the first to admit that’s entertaining. But it can lead to a closetful of clothes you don’t like or want to wear past a season or two. You get into a disposable relationship with everything you own. My motto is buy less, buy what you really love, and take care of what you own.’“
For all of you lovers of clothes and shopping (like myself!), the message here is much bigger than just our wardrobe. Look at the words used…”disconnected”, “entertaining”, “disposable relationship”. I see this “language of money” played out all the time with my clients through their spending habits, how they treat and raise their children, how they perceive their income relative to happiness, how they plan for retirement…I could go on and on. In other words, what you DO with your money, how you treat money, how you feel about money is your “language of money”. Remember this too, money isn’t just cold hard cash. Money is the house you own (or rent), it’s the clothes you wear, it’s the gifts and/or objects you purchase for yourself or others.
Just this past weekend my husband and I finally hung up my artwork in our living room. The living room had been re-painted months and months ago…truthfully, I can’t even remember when, it was that long ago. And my beautiful artwork that I had invested thousands in had been lying around leaning up against walls! For months and months the words “disconnected”, “disposable”, “empty”, “boring”, “ungrateful” became the language for our home and our family. Now that my artwork is gracing the walls of our living room, the words “cozy”, “inviting”, “happy”, and “rich” is our language. Ah, now that’s more like it!
What is your language of money? Is it an accurate description of who you are and how you feel about yourself? If you would like to change your language of money, what would this new language sound like?
Your language of money is your emotional relationship with money. Your emotional relationship with money will almost always tell you how you REALLY feel about yourself, others, and life.