Resolution or Relationship? What has your New Year been about so far?

QUICK NOTE … I wrote this article for LinkedIn just over a year ago. It occurred to me that this message is still relevant today, so here it is. Enjoy.

January 12, 2015 … Truthfully, I for one do not believe in New Years Resolutions … for those that do, that’s ok, whatever works for you is great! But for me, I believe that every day is a “New Year”, a new moment, a new opportunity to officially declare what it is you truly desire … and go for it.

Enough said … moving on.

Just before the Christmas Holiday it was unseasonably warm in this part of the world – and I was thrilled as that meant I could continue with my daily walks outside! On one of these walks, this is what came to me …

There is only ONE Relationship that truly matters. Period.

Our lives are overflowing with relationships, yes? We have relationships with other people, with our “stuff”, with our businesses … we are in relationship with everything. Relationships come and relationships go. And all too often, some of these relationships can become demanding, unfair, and overwhelming.

But, there is only ONE that matters in your world.

There is only ONE Relationship that needs your full attention …
There is only ONE Relationship that you need to care deeply about …
There is only ONE Relationship that is calling you to awaken it and strengthen it …

AND when you tend fully and completely to this Relationship, everything you need, everything you desire, will fall naturally into place.

Do you know what I find so interesting? I find it interesting that very few want to talk about THIS Relationship. Most people put labels around it, or tip-toe around it, or completely avoid it by calling it something other than what it really is.

The thing is … when this Relationship is healthy, loving, trusting, and open, here’s what happens:

  • AHA’s become a regular occurrence in your daily life
  • Profound, life changing, insights become commonplace
  • You move through life with unshakeable confidence and conviction
  • Your sense of clarity is crystal clear and expansive
  • … and so much more!

Imagine now what that would feel like … living life with clarity, confident in your every choice, feeling free and at ease!

I’m NOT talking about your Relationship with money …
I’m NOT talking about your Relationship with your spouse or life partner …
I’m NOT talking about your Relationship with your children, your co-workers, your boss, or your business …

Many “experts” and “guru’s” – even they won’t say what that Relationship is. They continue to speak in code and they keep you thinking that they have the “secret”, that they have the answers … but, THEY don’t.

Do you want to know what that Relationship is? The ONE and ONLY Relationship that when you give it your full attention you will experience …

  • EASE … of choice, fun, and happiness
  • LOVE … as you never imagined before
  • PROSPERITY … beyond your imagination
  • FAITH … in your every move, your every choice
  • CLARITY… in your life purpose

Have I got your attention?
Do you really want to know what the most important Relationship is in your life? Because it’s not who or what you think … it’s not who or what you’ve been taught or told …

The most important Relationship in your life … is the Relationship you have with YOU!

You see – I was once this arrogant brat and total control freak. (and trust me when I say that I still catch myself at times like that!) I was the Queen that would exclaim “it’s my way or the highway”. And if you threatened “my way”, I would exclaim “off with your head”!

I thought that my way was always the best way, the only way. And every time I would act or make decisions from that perspective, I was met with disappointment.

My disappointments took different forms and came through different faces. Three divorces, single parenthood, spousal abuse, and financial bankruptcy – each a mirror. Each relationship, each circumstance and event were simply mirror reflections of my “inner-arrogance” – my unconscious fears.

I was so arrogant that I used to scoff at and dismiss God … I would give Him other names like “Universe”, “Source”, “Divine”. Not that it’s wrong to do so but, I did it in a dismissive and disrespectful way. When I would choose to ignore God, I was really ignoring myself … my True-Self … and then my –

  • Saboteur would show up as … “I’m not good enough, not talented enough. Turning down great opportunities … I was constantly getting in my own way!”
  • Victim would show up as … “if only I had more money, more time, a better education – then life would be easier!”
  • Prostitute would show up as … “I can’t leave this marriage now even though it’s riddled with abuse, because I can’t afford to live on my own and support my children.”
  • Child would show up as … “Work can be fun? Enjoyable? No way!”

“Trials are but lessons which you failed to learn presented once again, so where you made a faulty choice before you now can make a better one, and thus escape all pain which what you chose before has brought to you. In every difficulty, all distress, and each perplexity you face, Christ calls to you, and gently says, “My brother, choose again.” ” -A Course in Miracles

Yes – choose again …

Choose to empower yourself by creating a different story – a better story. The only reason why you see patterns repeat and struggles continue in your relationships is because you are being given the opportunity for a “do-over”.

It’s a new day ( ok -it’s a new year!) to make a better choice. To think differently, feel differently, and do differently … putting an end to struggle and experiencing greater ease.

There is ONLY ONE Relationship that matters most in your world … and that Relationship is the one you have with your-Self, your GOD-SELF. That greater part of you that is Spirit, Heart, Love, Joy.

It is this Relationship that when you surrender to it, trust it – you will finally awaken to your True Wealth, Peace, and Prosperity.


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Who would you be if you won?

It’s hardly like me to jump on the bandwagon and write about something that others seem to be writing but, my hands have literally been shaking for the past 3 days … a signal that this message must be of relevance.

A few days ago one of the members of my Wealth Ministry began a conversation around winning the Powerball – which at the time was valued at $700 million. She had imagined herself winning and to her surprise, she felt anxious and hopeless. A feeling that her life would end as she knew it now. A feeling that she would lose her sense of purpose in life if she were to be in receipt of such a large windfall. She asked herself …

What could I possibly do with all of this money? What would I do with my life now? Would my life no longer have meaning as it would appear that I have nothing to work towards?

Here is a brilliant and talented entrepreneur who for years has consciously worked on her personal and spiritual growth. Yet, when faced with having to contend with winning millions, she came undone. She reverted to fear and thinking small. She lost her sense of Self.

What about you friend? Would you react in much the same way? I know it isn’t very often that we ask ourselves a question like this but, perhaps we should? 

If you were to close your eyes right now and imagine that your numbers were called, that you won what is now worth close to $1.4 billion, what feelings come up for you?

How do you see yourself now that your bank statement reflects 9-10 digits more?

As the conversation continued in the group, and more members began to chime in, the honesty, the courage, and inspirations sprang forth. One woman offered that $700 million would go very quickly if one was to direct it towards taking care of all the Refugees – or if one were to set out to help feed all of the hungry children in the world. What seems to be such a large sum becomes very small when we begin to notice how much love is needed in this world. And couldn’t money be seen as a tool for spreading love?

Another woman shared that she wouldn’t want to win. Perhaps so much love, so much abundance, would be unbearable?

Take a good look at what comes up for you as you answer this question, without judgement or ridicule. 

Who would you be?

The frightened one? The one whose story says that if she were to have millions or billions she would lose everything else, including herself? The one that said her script spins the tale of unworthiness?

Or would you choose to be the one that remembers who she is and dares to dream, dares to imagine? The one who quietly sits back with pen and paper in hand, allowing all of her ideas to come forward and onto the page?

What fun it would be to play with so much money, so much love! Think of how you could take care of your family and friends. Think of the ways in which you can leverage and expand this sum to reach all corners of the world with this one gift … 

So — who would you be?


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New Year’s can never be the same. Ever.

It was Christmas Eve morning, I sat quietly in my living room gazing into the lights and reflective sparkle of our Christmas tree. My thoughts stuck on a picture I had been looking at just a minute before.

I couldn’t shake the image and the feelings that stirred. The picture was of a young Syrian refugee girl twirling in place with her arms open wide. Snow falling lightly around her. Dressed in a pink hat and matching pink boots, smiling and laughing … appearing to catch a few snowflakes on her tongue.

Instead of getting ready to exchange gifts and share a meal in the name of the holiday season, this young girl and her family were preparing to cross the border near Bavaria.

Imagine for a moment that you are that young Syrian refugee girl only moments away from making that walk. A walk that would take you and those you love to a place that you hope is safe, a place that you hope is welcoming, a place that you hope to call home.

If you were that young child on Christmas Eve, waiting to make that walk, would you be preparing as she did? With arms out wide, twirling in the snow, with a smile on your face? Be honest. Is that how you would choose to spend that moment just before you crossed into a new and unknown land?

Would you be hopeful, expectant, and open to what the following day and days hold for you and your family?

Would you feel so care-free that you could literally dance across the border, into your new world?

As I put myself into the young girl’s pink boots, I found myself questioning if I was capable of feeling what she was feeling in the moment that camera captured her.

I’m not so sure that my preparation for crossing into another country, a foreign place, would consist of any kind of dance movement – much less a twirl and a smile. I then began to wonder how it was that her world and my world could be so different.

There I sat, on Christmas Eve morning, in anticipation of what? Welcoming family and friends to my home? The exchange of gifts? Sharing a meal as we conversed and laughed?

I had to ask – what was this little girl trying to tell me?

It was then that I could feel what she was feeling … and it was then that everything changed.

Appearances can be deceiving, as they say. You see, that young Syrian girl and I, we aren’t that different. Only one week later am I about to make that same walk as she. I am crossing a border of my own making, as are you. It’s called the New Year. And what is found on the other side of said border is completely up to me (and you).

The message, sent by this magical child, is that it is always our choice in how we prepare for any border crossing. Whether it’s a new year, a new business, a new relationship, or a new life.

So why not follow this young one’s lead?

Pay no mind to the worries about money, about success, about work, about relationships …

Instead, throw your arms out wide and twirl! Yes, twirl!

If that little girl can bravely walk towards a new life, then what could possibly be holding you back from walking towards and claiming yours? Whatever that “new life” may be!

From this moment on, see your New Year as your border crossing …

Will you cross into the New Year as you have in years past? Or will 2016 and beyond be different?

This time … may you toss your head back, laugh at the sky, and dance between the falling snow flakes!

This time … without fear, without hesitation, and with nothing to distract you … take that first step, with eyes wide open to the wonderment of all that could be, and make that walk a walk to remember, as you enter your new world.

Happy New Year … may it never be the same again.

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