Blind spots are a bitch

I don’t know where you are in life right now, financially or otherwise, but I’d be willing to bet that you have moments where you think, is this where it’s at? Is this as good as it gets?

I too have those moments.

Moments where I wonder how I got here … to this place, in this situation, in this relationship, to the work I do.

As I wonder I am quick to realize that sometimes I feel really good about where I am and who I am … and other times, not so much. Instead I feel confused, conflicted,  and at a loss … even though I think I’m clear about what I want.

Blind spots.

If you are asking how life is one way and not another … if you think you deserve more or better … if you question how you can feel great one moment and horrible the next … if your relationships are stressed (which may include the one you have with money) … then you too, have blind spots.

Blind spots are pieces of you that you have yet to see. Not because you can’t see but, because you choose not to – it’s too uncomfortable.

It’s like you know that there’s something awry … in a relationship, or your business, or your finances … and it’s bringing you down or causing upset.  BUT – you keep thinking the problem is the relationship, or with your work, or your employer, or your finances. Yet the problem has nothing to do with any of those things.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from shedding light on my own blind spots is that I am never upset for the reasons I think … ever.

Here’s something else … as much as I’d like to think that I know myself and that I know what I want, my blind spots show me otherwise. My blind spots remind me that I know nothing. That’s right, nothing.

And I’m ok with that because the good news is, I can use my blind spots to my advantage … and so can you!

It was about 15 years ago when I was practicing Nicherin Buddhism and when I first learned of “blind spots”. It was also when I was introduced to the term shakabuka and fell in love with it’s meaning. Shakabuku is to “cause an awakening” … and “to enable a person to believe in the great, unrealized potential of their life”.

Shakabuku works through your blind spots. In other words, every upset you experience is a call for you to shed light on what’s really causing your distress (your blind spot) and thus open you up to realizing your power and potential.

I can still hear my girlfriend and client, the one that introduced me to Nicherin Buddhism, say to me, “You’ve been shakabuku’ed!” – and then we would laugh! We would laugh because whatever it was that I was hiding from myself, whatever it was that I had been refusing to see, would turn out to be a big fat lie. What I thought was such a big, painful deal, would end up a wonderful opportunity to see myself in a more loving way.

Blind spots don’t have to be a bitch. Every upset, doubt, or worry is nothing more than something within you that wishes to be seen so that it can be forgotten. When we can forget (forgive) our blind spots, we remember more and more of who we really are … and from there, life really does get easier – and better!

 

Got blind spots around you and money? Check out this event …

Upcoming event in Buffalo NY … January 21st 2017 – “Think like a Rebel, Live like a Queen: The Master Class” – for more information go to https://livelikeaqueen.eventbrite.com

 

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About thatmoneygirl

Mom, Wife, Friend, Sister...Pioneer “I love helping women (and men!) be who they really are and get what they really want by working with them to resolve their deep money issues. All too often, it’s an unhealthy relationship with money that holds you back from finding peace and happiness. You are unhappy and unfulfilled in your relationships, your work, and in life overall ... and it was never meant to be that way. The good news is, there is another way - a better way, and I can help you."
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